A few months ago I saw Scott Galloway’s impactful TED talk How the US is Destroying Young People’s Future — he makes some impactful points with some powerful graphs:

I then ran into this podcast (see below) interview of him, where Scott talks about how American is becoming increasingly harder for people who aren’t rich or remarkable at a young age. It’s fascinating to hear him talk about how universities are incentivized to become luxury brands (focus on scarcity) instead of providing an opportunity for people to learn, be exposed to new ideas, and possibly excel.
I also found his suggestion, when he mentors young men, to spend some time daily with strangers so interesting — I realize that in our digital world, there is so much less talking the person in line at the grocery store or at the park because at the first second of boredom, people pull out their phones.
In a recent post People Are The New Brands, Scott’s podcast co-host talks about parasocial relationships, the dramatic shift of people having fewer actual friendships and spending less time with friends, and replacing those relationships with parasocial relationships (e.g., following an influencer on a patform like Instagram, YouTube, or Tiktok; and feeling connected through these “relationships”).
The most important number is 12%. That’s the share of Americans who say they have zero close friends, up from 3% in 1990. Meanwhile, half the country says they’re struggling with loneliness. These numbers took off when Apple put computers in our pockets, and they’ve been climbing ever since.
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Great observations. I am not sure I agree with inferred suggestion that Apple and the iPhone are at fault. I would suggest a failure of parents to tell childern to get out of the house and find something to do (rather than arranging play dates and teaching them to fear play outside controlled events). Stoicism suggests that loneliness is part of life and we need to accomodate and embrace it, at least in doses. Take a walk in the woods (alone), then chat to the person you meet at Starbucks.
Hey Tom, I certainly agree that it’s not all the fault of smartphones. The cultural shift towards kids not being given as much autonomy/freedom contributes to, which is interesting to see the pressure around letting kids play outside is “bad parenting” and police/CPS being called on people in some crazy scenarios. I found this podcast (Ep 1: Are We Over-Parenting Ou – Raising Parents with Emily Oster – Apple Podcasts) about over-parenting vs. free-range parenting fascinating (and sad).
I also love the idea that being okay with boredom/loneliness is a critical skill for living a life that is fulfilling and not just distracted.